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05 March 2009 @ 11:27 pm
Kitty relations are deteriorating. Tom is growing more energetic, more aggressive. He's a young cat; I believe this springs from wanting to play. Trouble is, the older girls are bearing the brunt of it. It's come to the point where they're too freaked out to go downstairs to use the litterbox. This is bad. Very, very bad.

I don't know what to do. Throwing Tom back outside is not an option. He's not a bad cat, he's just very large, energetic and young. If the older girls run, he's going to chase. He actually tackled Jilly last night. She has a scratch on her nose and she hid in our bedroom ALL DAY. Isabeau's hiding in the basement most of the time, and her digestive system is a mess.

At this point, our options are narrowing to 1. find a new home for the boy (and good luck there) and 2. declaw and chill-out meds (if I can get a vet to agree and if I can bring myself to be so harsh).

This is not cool.
Mirandamirmie on March 6th, 2009 04:59 am (UTC)
I don't really know much about cats, but when we had a puppy who was sweet but energetic to the point that it was a problem we got another dog, and then they got all their energy out playing with each other. Could you get Tom a kitty play mate? Then maybe he'd leave the less playful cats alone? On the other hand, then maybe you'd have two overly excited cats going after them. Anyway, this was probably eniterly unhelpful, but *hugs*. I hope you figure something out!
Nim: facepalmnimue9 on March 6th, 2009 02:42 pm (UTC)
I was going to mention this, too...when we got Tess, she annoyed the hell out of our older cat, Sluggy, who really just wants to live up to her name. Then when we got Ibn, he and Tess bonded and started wrasslin' each other, leaving Slugs alone. I know it's an unpredictable kind of alchemy, though.
Kel: Kitten!Tenladyjoust on March 6th, 2009 11:50 pm (UTC)
That worked beautifully when we got Esme. At that point it was very young Zinda and the two older girls. Esme fit in at once, and she and Zee were fast friends and playmates.

Alas, there's been no such bonding with Tom. Unpredictable alchemy, indeed.
Aifacat: Angel or Devil?aifacat on March 6th, 2009 05:43 am (UTC)
Eep. I hope things work out one way or another...
Zoë Tzoethor on March 6th, 2009 05:59 am (UTC)
*hugshugshugs* I love HT so much, even from afar. I wish I could lend you Escher for awhile -- he also likes to chase the other kitties much more often than they'd prefer to be chased.

The thought of declawing a cat just makes my so unhappy -- maybe you could try to work with some meds first, so you wouldn't be doing anything permanent. It may be that the other kitties will warm up to him if he isn't jumping on them for a month or two, and then you can start taking him off the meds slowly to let them get used to his antics.

My heart goes out to you - HT has such a wonderful and lovely story, and you've helped him so much - I wish this were all simpler for you.
onionhead bass fiddle: Cuddling Catsmuddyroad on March 6th, 2009 07:18 am (UTC)
Awww... if I lived anywhere near you and didn't have some stupid no-pets clause in my lease, I'd take him in a heartbeat! He always sounds like such a sweetheart!
Kel: 52 Jillyladyjoust on March 6th, 2009 11:18 pm (UTC)
Knowing what little I do of you from the online world, Tom would be you perfect cat. You're both dark haired and adorable with a bit of cool attitude and a lot of sweetness. I can so see him perched on your leather jacketed shoulder!
Molly: this land dinosaurszapthatmonster on March 6th, 2009 08:11 am (UTC)
What about nail caps? Have you tried those?
Peregrinejperegrine on March 6th, 2009 05:00 pm (UTC)
We've used the SoftPaws variety with EXCELLENT results. Two of our four cats picked up a bad habit of scratching on the new and expensive persian rug. With the caps, this has pretty much stopped. Just re-apply them every few weeks when the claws normally shed.
harpiegirl4: Aragorn 1harpiegirl4 on March 6th, 2009 12:12 pm (UTC)
Have you looked into chill-out herbal remedies for cats? That might be a good option to try first, before chemicals or declawing. It won't harm him... the absolute worst it will do is nothing. But they can be very effective.
Vampcurse: Llama rivervampcurse on March 6th, 2009 01:01 pm (UTC)
You may not need to declaw him, the chill out meds might be enough...or start letting him out since it's getting nicer out. Let him work out all that energy.
mistress_kathmistress_kath on March 6th, 2009 03:56 pm (UTC)
A few thoughts...

Keep declawing for a last resort. If you take away a cat's claws, which are his primary form of defense, the cat can start to bite to defend himself. Scratches are almost always surface wounds, but bites can be Very Bad.

Does your vet have a behaviorist associated with their office?

Does Esme like to play with Tom? We had a problem with a kitten driving an older cat nuts, but once we got him another little one, they played together and let Snowball snooze in peace.

Can you or Don spare maybe 15 minutes a day to really rough house with Tom? Fetch, or tug of war, or a fishy pole toy?

Hope something in here helps!
Kerry: Charliescreamingdolai on March 6th, 2009 04:43 pm (UTC)
Kitty relations are deteriorating
sounds like you need a Kitteh U.N.!

There is a liquid stuff called "Calm Down" that I get from Petco and if I remember to put that in Charlie's bowl everyday he can tolerate people better...it might work on Tom. It's only $10 a bottle which isn't horrific.

If your vet recommends meds please let me know how they affect him.
Kerry: OMG ONOZscreamingdolai on March 6th, 2009 04:46 pm (UTC)
Oh wait, maybe I get it at PetSmart...anyway here's a link:

Now I doubt Tom has Kitteh Asperger's like Charlie does. I think he just has Kitteh ADHD. :)