I don't know what to do. Throwing Tom back outside is not an option. He's not a bad cat, he's just very large, energetic and young. If the older girls run, he's going to chase. He actually tackled Jilly last night. She has a scratch on her nose and she hid in our bedroom ALL DAY. Isabeau's hiding in the basement most of the time, and her digestive system is a mess.
At this point, our options are narrowing to 1. find a new home for the boy (and good luck there) and 2. declaw and chill-out meds (if I can get a vet to agree and if I can bring myself to be so harsh).
This is not cool.