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22 September 2007 @ 07:58 pm
Dad-update (blithering ahead; apologies!)  
Bottom line: Dad's lungs are failing. They will, at some not too distant time, fail completely. Good days aside, this is the prognosis.

He was placed under hospice care at Yale/New Haven on Wednesday last. No more venting, no more BiPAP: oxygen mask only. Morphine drip. Comfort measures. I know a lot of you have been there, and know the drill. The reason they didn't move him to a facility closer to home (my hometown in CT, that is) is that they weren't remotely certain he'd last the night. Now that he's made it a few days more, they're looking at other options. Anything closer to my hometown would be fine; Mom could drive herself to go see him, and it would be easier all 'round for the rest of us to get there, too.

So. All that being said, last Wednesday was, as I have previously mentioned, bad. Don and I got to the hospital just before nine in the evening. My brother had been there all day. Dad was awake and somewhat aware for most of that time, and was just starting to fade when we arrived. Don and my bro surreptitiously cleared the room for a time, and I hugged Dad and stroked his hair and told him everything I needed and wanted to say. Whatever else happens, that's done, and I am certain he heard me. The three of us stayed overnight at the hospital - Dad's in a private room, and there was an extra bed and two reclining chairs that the three of us slept (HA!) in. Bad, bad bad bad night. That's all you need to know.

The next morning, he was resting well. By the time we'd gone home to fetch Mom and returned, he was still sleeping, but woke not long after. He was clear-headed and joking and later had some ginger ale (which he's been wanting for nearly a month) and asked for tomato soup. My sister spent the entire day with him; that made him happy. She's always been his favourite (and I way this with no bitterness; it's just the way it's been) so he always perks up a bit more when she's around. I've said it before and I'll say it again: she's been a wonder.

Today he was lethargic and confused.

I've no idea what each day will bring, but knowing the prognosis is, strange to say, something of a relief. I won't be looking for false hope each time he knows who I am, or what year it is, or makes a goofy joke about wanting his razor. Way I see it, each good day is a gift. We'll treasure every one of them.
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Silvie: *hugs*silverfyshxin on September 23rd, 2007 01:04 am (UTC)
*hugs again* Take care.
Andrewquueer on September 23rd, 2007 01:10 am (UTC)
You are so very brave. I know you'll deny that, but you are.
Green Monkgrmonk on September 23rd, 2007 01:17 am (UTC)
Kelly I just got home form fair and I been drinking but I will say what you are going though I went though with my wife only over 9 days this said my love and prays are with you and Don and your Mom I don't known just love to you



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Phoenix Risingmynock25 on September 23rd, 2007 01:22 am (UTC)
*hugs*

You all still have my thoughts and prayers and well-wishes.
Adrienne C.adrienne429 on September 23rd, 2007 03:02 am (UTC)
Hang in there... We're all thinking of you.
Ea Quae Legiteaquaelegit on September 23rd, 2007 03:37 am (UTC)
*hugs so much*

I wish I could cry for you.
Juliet: davincifair_juliet on September 23rd, 2007 03:53 am (UTC)
I know how hard this as been for you and I know there's nothing I can really do to make this better but you have our deepest sympathies and as always our love for you and your family.
Ratesjul: soaringratesjul on September 23rd, 2007 07:02 am (UTC)
*hugs and warmth and comfort, dearling*

You be as blithery as you want to. Whatever you want to share, we want to listen to. Hang in there. Kia Kaha. Stay strong.
albinomarealbinomare on September 23rd, 2007 01:19 pm (UTC)
Kelly-
All I know about your dad is the wonderful way you have spoken of him here and that he raised a daughter like you. He is truly an amazing person. All good energy my family and I can send is yours.
La Petite Souris Scientifiquemelebeth on September 23rd, 2007 02:28 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I am very glad that you are getting some good days with him.
Fjordhopper: little match girlfjordhopper on September 23rd, 2007 04:11 pm (UTC)
*huge hugs*
still sending prayers your family's way, for support and for strength for all of you. And sending lot of love your way.
kitmfkitmf on September 23rd, 2007 05:06 pm (UTC)
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am hoping this last bit is peaceful for all concerned. It was with my father in law. Feel free to share as much as you wish.
Mirandamirmie on September 23rd, 2007 08:34 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
Mairearanturas on September 23rd, 2007 10:44 pm (UTC)
::hugs::
Rennierengirlie87 on September 23rd, 2007 11:57 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
mistress_kathmistress_kath on September 24th, 2007 01:56 am (UTC)
Much love to you and yours.
Cyd: sadfaireraven on September 24th, 2007 03:54 am (UTC)
*HUGS*

For as long as he is here, every moment is a present to both of you. Treasure it. *HUGS*
Kerry: GWTW hugsscreamingdolai on September 24th, 2007 01:37 pm (UTC)
Love you fiercely. Prayers for you and your family in this difficult time.
Aifacat: Yellow Bettaaifacat on September 24th, 2007 11:02 pm (UTC)
Sending much love...and so glad you got to really talk to him. ((((hugs))))